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Gift Ideas for Older Relatives and Friends

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The best gift for an older relative is usually one of three things: something that makes a daily task easier, something that brings family closer, or your time. These guides are written for the person doing the buying, with ideas sorted by budget and by the kind of person you are buying for.

How to choose a gift that will actually be used

Many people in their seventies, eighties and nineties say the same thing when asked what they would like: "I don't need anything." That is often true of ornaments and toiletries, but it rarely means there is nothing that would make life more comfortable or more enjoyable. A few questions help you find it.

  • What do they complain about? Cold feet, a stiff jar lid, small print, a phone they cannot hear. A gift that quietly fixes a nuisance is used every day.
  • What have they stopped doing? Reading, gardening, baking or going out are often given up because of one fixable obstacle, such as poor light or a heavy tool.
  • How much space do they have? Someone who has downsized, or who lives in one room, will not thank you for something large.

Four kinds of person

Each guide in this section sorts ideas under the same four headings, because the right gift depends far more on the person than on their age.

  • The practical one likes things that work and dislikes fuss. Think warmth, good light, easy-grip tools and gadgets that save effort.
  • The sentimental one treasures family and memories. Think photographs, letters, recorded stories and things made by grandchildren.
  • The one who likes to be out and about would rather do something than own something. Think meals, shows, garden visits and memberships.
  • The one who "has everything" is best served by things that get used up (good food, flowers, stamps) or by your time.

A word about tact

Gifts that help with stiffness, sight or hearing can be welcome, but nobody wants to unwrap a reminder that they are getting older on their birthday. Choose things that look good and feel like a treat: a handsome lamp, a soft heated throw, a well-made gadget. Leave anything medical-looking, such as mobility or bathroom equipment, for an ordinary day and a proper conversation. Our home and comfort section covers those items when the time comes.

Guides in this section

Buying guides that double as gift guides

Many of our buying guides cover things that make good presents. The most popular are heated throws and electric blankets, digital photo frames, e-readers, smart speakers, large-print books and puzzles and garden tools for older gardeners. If you are buying on someone's behalf rather than as a present, see shopping for someone else.

Common questions

What do you buy an older person who says they want nothing?

Something that gets used up, or something you do together. Good food, flowers, a book of stamps, a meal out or an afternoon spent sorting old photographs all avoid adding clutter.

Is it rude to give a practical gift?

Not if it is chosen with care and looks like a treat. A warm throw or a good reading lamp is welcome; a bath seat in wrapping paper is not. If in doubt, pair something practical with something indulgent.

How much should I spend?

There is no right figure. Each guide gives ideas under £20, from £20 to £50 and over £50, and many of the most appreciated gifts cost little more than time.

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